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Question:

What is the ruling for eating at the cemeteries? There are some people who said that it is prohibited to eat at the cemeteries taking pity on the dead that is watching.

 

Answer:

Alhamdulillah, praise and thanks to Allah SWT for the countless blessings He has blessed us all with. Blessings and salutations to the prophet Muhammad PBUH, his family, companions and all those that follow his teachings.

In answering this question, we divide it into several sections:

First: Definition for a Graveyard

Grave is a place where the dead are buried in a hole in the soil. They are also known as a tomb. Meanwhile, the dead are deceased human beings. As for graveyard or cemetery, it is a place or land where the dead are buried. (See Kamus Dewan Bahasa dan Pustaka)

Second: Sunnah to Visit the Graves

There are a lot of evidences that encourage us to visit the graves. From Abu Hurairah RA, he said the Prophet PBUH said:

زُورُوا الْقُبُورَ فَإِنَّهَا تُذَكِّرُكُمْ الْآخِرَةَ

“Visit the graves, for they will remind you of the Hereafter.”

Sunan Ibnu Majah (1558), Sunan Imam Ahmad (3/179) and Sahih al-Jami’ al-Saghir (7829)

From Abi Sa’id al-Khudri RA, he said, the Prophet PBUH said:

إِنِّي نَهَيْتُكُمْ عَنْ زِيَارَةِ الْقُبُورِ فَزُورُوهَا فَإِنَّ فِيهَا عِبْرَةً

“I forbade you to visit graves, but you may now visit them, for in visiting them there is a reminder (of death).”

Sunan Imam Ahmad (22/466), al-Baihaqi in al-Sunan al-Kubra (4/77), al-Hakim in al-Mustadrak (3/414)

In a long narration from Anas bin Malik RA, the Prophet PBUH said:

زِيَارَةِ الْقُبُورِ ثُمَّ بَدَا لِي أَنَّهَا تُرِقُّ الْقَلْبَ وَتُدْمِعُ الْعَيْنَ وَتُذَكِّرُ الْآخِرَةَ فَزُورُوهَا وَلَا تَقُولُوا هُجْرًا

“Visiting the grave can soften the hearts, bring tears to the eyes and a reminder of the hereafter. Thus, visit graves. And do not speak of bad words.”

Sunan Ahmad (27/47) and al-Hakim in al-Mustadrak (3/421)

Third: The Issue of Eating in Cemeteries

Back to the question asked, we break this issue into three parts:

  1. Eating in cemeteries

According to the deeds of the salafus soleh, graveyards or cemeteries are not a place to eat. Due to this, when we study the manners of visiting graves, there are no mention of a suggestion of eating but it is full of manners and prayers when someone is visiting graves.

  1. Eating in the vicinity of cemeteries

 

We refer to Malay tradition, especially in rural areas, where they would build wakaf or a shed, not on the grave or cemetery itself but on a part of the grave land, that has not been used, as a place to rest and take shade from the sun while waiting for other family members or friends that are coming to visit the graves. In this issue, we hold the opinion that it is permissible on the condition that they must observe the manners of being in the vicinity of a cemetery.

There is a prohibition to slaughter animals on graves. From Anas RA, the Prophet PBUH said:

لَا عَقْرَ فِي الْإِسْلَامِ

“There is no slaughtering (at the grave) in Islam.”

Sunan Imam Ahmad (13032), Sunan Abu Daud (3224), al-Baihaqi in Sunan al-Kubra and Sunan Ibn Hibban (3146)

Syeikh Abd al-Razzaq said: "The meaning of ‘aqra ( عَقْرَ ) is slaughtering of animals at the grave.

 

Al-Khattabi in Ma’alim al-Sunan said: “Usually, the jahiliyyah people would slaughter camel at the grave of a generous man, for when he was alive he would slaughter animals to serve his guests. Hence, now we slaughter animal at his grave to feed the birds and wild animals. Then, even after death he can still serve food, just as when he was alive.

Thus, when eating in a shed or wakaf in the vicinity of a cemetery, one should always observe one’s manners. Avoid slaughtering animal in the vicinity and keep the cemetery clean, for the cleanliness of the cemetery symbolizes the concern and care of a community of their graveyard.

  1. The issue of pitying the dead that is watching

Our opinion is that this statement is inaccurate. This is due to the fact that the living lives in different realm than the dead, for the dead live in barzakh which is different than in this world, without denying that there is the punishment and rewards in barzakh.

We hold the opinion of in the issue of visiting graves, we must ensure to mind our manners and follow the guidelines that has been set according to syara’. May we be given a good understanding in our religion of Islam.